October 26, 2011, 8:23 pm
Neglected Children, Messy Houses and Guilt
By JENNY ANDERSON
In case you missed it, the Working Mother Research Institute surveyed 3,781 women and issued a report called “What Moms Choose.” It quantifies a lot of things we know, and a few that we don’t. Here are a few statistics to throw out over dinner, if you belong to one of those families who have civilized, discussion-based dinners (I tell myself that will happen when the children are older):
•55 percent of career-oriented stay-at-home mothers would prefer to be working
•71 percent of mothers equate work with something done only to pick up a paycheck
•51 percent of working mothers feel guilty about not spending enough time with their children
•55 percent of working mothers feel guilt about the untidiness of their house
•55 percent of stay-at-home-mothers feel guilty for not contributing to family income
•44 percent of stay-at-home moms feel guilt about the untidiness of their house
Guilt and tidiness seem to be pretty powerful themes here. And there’s more on both:
•49 percent of working mothers and 47 percent of stay-at-home-mothers agreed with the statement, “I am my worst critic”
Working mothers feel most judged about
1) How clean my house is
2) Not taking care of myself
3) The amount of time I spend with my children
Stay-at-home mothers feel most judged about
1) My contribution to family income
2) How clean my house is
3) Not using my education
It’s kind of impossible not to notice the weird emphasis on cleaning here. Why do both sets of mothers feel so much guilt about the house? Is it because they want a clean house or because they think they should have a clean house? My house is clean-ish, but cluttered, which drives me crazy, but doesn’t make me feel guilty (perhaps because I blame it on my husband, whose reluctance to throw away anything should be studied by anthropologists).
Is this a vestige of the 1950s, where women greeted men with cocktails, a warm meal and a meticulous home (oh, if my husband could only go back. In lieu of a highball he gets: “Bathe a kid! Cook some beans! Read ‘Ladybug Girl’ 22 times, and then once more!”).
On the guilt theme, I guess I shouldn’t be too surprised. It is the working mother report from the Working Mother Research Institute. But I can’t help but wonder, would the working dad institute ask whether fathers feel guilty about the cleanliness of their homes?
Sunday, October 30, 2011
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Saturday, October 29, 2011
Today, nearly one billion people (about 1in 8) lack access to clean water. More than 3.5 million die each year from water-related disease; 84% are children. Lack of access to clean water and sanitation kills at a rate equal to a jumbo jet full of kids every 4 hours. $25 can supply a person with clean water for life. The more people know the more we can make a difference. If you see this, and like it please copy and paste to another vid and give any amount you can.
check out the link below. The water bottle would make a great christmas gift as well as helping others.
Posted by Greta Jo at 3:06 PM
Tuesday, October 18, 2011
Monday, October 17, 2011
I have so much to write about however I am not in the mood. In a nutshell without all the details:
My sister and I took my parents out to dinner for their anniversary.
Carson did very well on his progress report.
Shauna is rehearsing for the school play. She has one of the lead roles.
We are flying to Florida this week.
We had a really great time at the fall party this weekend (thanks mom and dad).
Why do people love drama? It makes me ill-
We leased out one of our horses. The barn seems different without her.
I only have a two more gifts to buy for Christmas.
Have you ever listened to the way some people talk to others? Holy Cow! People can be rude and nasty.
I work with someone who always looks for the negative in others. what did they do wrong? what did they miss? What didn't they do? get the point. YUCK!
Cinderella is great! We are so in love with her :)
I'm scheduled for a second phone interview tomorrow night however I think I am going to decline the position.
I have to remember our wedding anniversary is next week('something' is this Friday but I am not sure what). I am awful with dates.
I dislike Halloween! Thank God for Best. She loves taking Carson out for Halloween.
Posted by Greta Jo at 9:51 PM
Wednesday, October 12, 2011
Last weekend Jonathan and I visited New Mexico. We went to the fiesta for hot air balloons. Wow, was that pretty neat! Hundreds of balloons flying in the sky at one time- If you wanted to pay $400.00 pp you could take a hour ride in a balloon. No, Thanks!
Can you believe some of the balloons cost over $150,000.00?
Posted by Greta Jo at 10:00 PM
Tuesday, October 11, 2011
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Wednesday, October 5, 2011
Tuesday, October 4, 2011
We have the heat on in the house.
I am driving with my seat warmer on.
I am warming the truck up before we leave in the morning.
We added extra blankets to the beds in the house.
My horse is starting to get his winter coat.
I am already starting to get the winter blues...
Posted by Greta Jo at 9:54 PM
Monday, October 3, 2011
Carson is asking for (get ready) a cell phone, a flat t.v (as he calls it), batman and star war lego's, audio stories, a bigger guitar, odd pod(i-pod)touch.
what the heck is he going to ask for when he is 10?
Posted by Greta Jo at 8:54 PM
Sunday, October 2, 2011
As I was mowing the grass tonight I could see my breath. What the heck happened? Why did it get so cold so quickly? I am not ready for cold weather... Have I ever written how much I dislike it? When Carson is cold he usually says, "mommy can you turn up the sun?"
Posted by Greta Jo at 10:06 PM
Tracey and Carson went to Monster Jam in Wildwood Saturday. This is an annual tradition for the two of them. Carson looks forward to it every year. Below is Carson's thank you note to Tracey (Best).
I really thank you for taking me to monster trucks. The pizza was really good. Remember the little guy was going in the little path but his truck was going to slow. That was really funny. Maybe one day I will kiss you on the lips.
I miss Best. See you at 30 o'clock.
Posted by Greta Jo at 8:46 AM